Post Graduation Depression & How To Prepare For Post Grad Life

If you are struggling with post graduation depression, you are in the right place! Today I am going to go over some awesome tips for post college graduates. They will help you figure out how to survive the real world and how to adjust to post grad life!

Finding jobs after college can take some time and it is totally normal. The averages to find a job is actually 6 months after graduation for my college

Post graduation depression is something most of us deal with in post grad life, we just need to learn how to survive in the real world by constantly practicing to be the best version of ourselves
Congratulations, You Did It!

The time it takes you to find a job has NOTHING to do with your worth and value. Make sure you push through this standstill and TAKE constant ACTION towards achieving your goals!

You graduated, it is super exciting, now what???

It is completely normal to feel scared and confused when going through such a major change in your life. 

Tip 1: Reset Your Expectations & Bust the Myths To Avoid Falling in Post Graduation Depression

Post graduation depression usually happens because we have unrealistic expectations about what after grad life will be like so a good place to start is by re setting our expectations

After we graduate, society puts so much pressure on us to:

  • Having it all together & figured out
  • Not letting your family down
  • Making your parents’ investment of your schooling worth it
  • Having the best job
  • Being paid a certain amount
  • Starting a family
  • Getting married
  • Having children and more.

That is just NOT how it works for the most part… Sure, some people get luckier than others.

But there are many different ways that the right opportunity might come along:

  • For some people, it might seem like their path might have come along just at the right time
  • Or some have their path already carved for them by their parents
  • Some work harder than others to make it all happen
  • Some people will just wait and hope
  • Sometimes you will try everything but still struggle

…this is life…it’s normal.

Finding jobs after college is just something we do to add to our life whether it is a sense of meaning or purpose or whether it is for monetary gain but it is not our worth

Stop comparing yourself to other people, because, how is that helping you? Is it furthering you in your career? Is it making your life any easier? No?! so stop wasting time and energy on it

Whatever you decide to do with your life and career should be solely based on what feels right for you and only you.

Save yourself the trouble and don’t try to make someone else happy with your life choices. It will just create conflicts, hard feelings, resentment and unhappiness in the long run.

Remember you also shouldn’t just sit and wait for something to happen because literally NOTHING will magically get done on its own.

post graduation depression can make you feel in a very dark place and make you feel un worthy but you are so much more than that, just take small acts of courage and keep moving forward to a better future
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway!

If after graduating you feel burnt out, don’t feel guilty if you decide to reward yourself by taking a break! Just make sure to avoid racking up even more debt because it will make your future even harder.

I know it can be scary to switch your entire world into something you are uncomfortable with and unsure of.

Learning how to just feel the fear and doing it anyway, is the secret to being successful and grow at a rapid rate in life.

Each decision you make should be made in a calculated manner so it’s not like you are blind to the situation.

Most importantly, just know that nothing happens overnight, so you just need to be patient and you will breakthrough!

Tip 2: Know Why You Are Here And What Your Goals Are

How can you achieve your dreams if you don’t even know what they are? Get a game plan

get a gameplan and take action towards your most important goals
Make Sure You Consistently Take Action Towards Your Goals

You want to first find your why and your purpose 

(Follow the blog and youtube. Next week I walk you through steps by step on how to do just that.)

Find Your Unique Purpose

Start by asking yourself: 

  • What do you love? 
  • What do you shine the most in? 
  • Out of anything in life, what makes you the happiest? 
  • What do you want to accomplish, experience? 
  • Define what success looks like to you? 
  • What are your best qualities? 
  • In what situation do your qualities shine the most in? 

Tip 3: Give Up All Excuses – Give Yourself A Little Tough Love – Identify Why You Fell In Post Graduation Depression In The First Place

Stop blaming everything and everyone and realize that you need to take 100% responsibility for your life because you are the only one who can organize the life you want to have.

Stop Wasting Your Time, You Are Worth More!

Don’t complain and assume other people’s feelings and responses before even asking them; ask them why they are making a particular remark or why they are making a particular expression before just assuming the world is against you.

Being defensive and avoiding them is not going to help you, what is the worst-case scenario anyways? They could say “no” so that you can have closure and move on. Or, they could actually tell you what is wrong that way you can fix it.

Mainly when it comes to a professional environment, don’t complain that no one called you back. Assuming a million different scenarios like that “it must be because nowadays people demand too much” won’t help you.

Call them back and Follow up! if they say no, ASK WHY so that you can fix it. It could be something so simple!

Tip 4: Set Up A Structured Routine

time block your schedule and get a structured routine to make sure that you don't fall being busy instead of being productive after grad life.
Time Block Your Schedule

Just because you are not forced to show up somewhere, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have a structured schedule. As a matter of fact, it is crucial to your success.

If you have no specific plan set up, it is much easier to get sidetracked and distracted from what you need to accomplish.

It would be beneficial for you to learn how to time block your day so that you can divide your time efficiently between:

  • Setting up meetings
  • Perfect your resume
  • Do some follow up calls
  • Drive to the company you applied to and “put a face to a name”
  • Perfect your interview skills
  • Perfect your interview outfits
  • Learn and get online certifications if applicable
  • To attend free seminars
  • Attend career fairs
  • Volunteer so that you can make a difference and possibly even network
  • Clean up your online presence

You always want to be a step ahead of the competition, really take this time to focus on yourself.

Tip 5: Practice confidence!!

Know what you want and understand your value in order to be prepared to define it.

  • Believe in yourself and your worth.
  • Accept and forgive yourself for the past
  • Be ready to welcome the new you
  • Maintain a level of positive expectancy
  • Act as if you already achieved what you want.

Remember that the way you react to a situation is the outcome of your successes and failures

These are just SOME of the things you can do to set yourself up for success and get out of feeling stuck when dealing with post graduation depression. 

Are you 100% clear on what it is you are even meant for and want to do with your life? What is your passion? 

If you are unsure of what your purpose is and need some clarity… Be sure to join me by following the blog, because next week we will cover some tips that will help you breakthrough and define your goals.

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What to do After School is Over | Tips for After College Life

Wondering what to do after school is over?

  • Is it supposed to take this long to try finding jobs after college even though you just graduated with a good degree?
  • Why am I not good enough?
  • What can I do to stop feeling I feel stuck and left behind?
  • Why is after college life so hard?

Did you ever ask yourself any of these questions? If so, this is for you!

Here are 6 Valuable Tips for you to Clarify What to do Once School is Over. Follow These Easy Tips to Skyrocket your Life After College in 2019/2020!

Wondering what to do after school is over? Stop feeling stuck and left behind, and get ready to take action towards achieving goals! 

Stop Wondering What To Do After School Is Over

Tip 1: Find Your Purpose

Find your purpose and apply it to everything you decide to pursue even if you don't exactly know yet what to do after school is over
Find Happiness in Everything You Do

You want to find out what you are already good at and really hone in on your skills! Instead of giving too much attention to something you can eventually delegate to a third party while you focus on what you are good at.

If you can’t make your mind up on something specific, try thinking about some of these things.

  • Send a text to a family member or to a friend and ask; “What am I better than others at doing?”
  • Think about what all your friends come to you for, what advice are they asking you to pitch in on? 
  • If the steps above don’t provide enough clarity for you, you can also take it a step further. You can find other resources online like, for example, taking a quiz on “Clifton strengths”

Tip 2: Clean up Your Life 

What to do after school is over is going to need to be preceded by cleaning up your social media and personal branding online because otherwise it might ruin all the good efforts you are attempting to apply to your life.
How Do You Want Others to Perceive You?

Ask yourself, how do you want to be perceived by others? Make sure you focus your attention on your personal branding, not just online but in person as well.

Start by doing a social media clean up, work your way through all of your online presence. Next, make sure to remove toxic people in your life that might be holding you back from achieving goals.

Tip 3: Expectations vs Reality

Since everything up until now has been structured for you by either your family or professors; realize that learning time management is essential to your success.

You are now in charge of making your own; “syllabus”, “rules”, and “schedule”. Because if you don’t, more than likely your productivity won’t be at its highest.

Some of the most common myths and misconceptions are:

Expectations vs Reality is that people should automatically know what to do after school is over when really, like anything in life, it is something that needs to be learned.
You Are Right Where You Need to Be
  • Life gets easier after college
  • That you suddenly have your s*** together and that you will live happily ever after.

Turns out reality is a tad different from the fairy tale we have been told; don’t think that you are the only one going through this struggle and fall into post grad depression.

P.S. (If you are already experiencing post grad depression, make sure you follow the blog. Next week I will give you some tips on how to overcome it).

You want to work on your mindset and forget what other people expect of you. Be open to learning and set your own goals.

Try to connect with like-minded people and learn how to stop comparing yourself to others because it won’t help you.

If you found a job: Don’t be shy, ask questions, be open-minded, absorb new info, and rebuild your reputation. 

No one knows you and no one is keeping tabs on you. So make sure to keep in your own lane and not get discouraged if you have to re-earn everyone’s respect since you are in a different environment.

Tip 4: Get Disciplined With Your Finances 

Taking care of your finances is essential mainly while you are in limbo trying to figure out what to do after school is over because otherwise it is easy to fall into debt faster than you'd imagine.
Ask; Is This Worth Spending On?

It is essential that you gain control over spending, mainly if you are in between graduation and finding a job. After school is over it is crucial to come up with a gameplan before your student loans come due (if you have any).

Don’t waste money if you can save it. Learn how to cook at home, before you buy anything, ask yourself if it is a necessity and of extreme value to you. If you can wait, don’t buy it, pick and choose what is worth spending your money on.

Tip 5: Get a Structured Routine And Figure Out How To Still Keep Productive After School Is Over

Get organized, have a structured schedule, and even time block your day for specific tasks.

Tip 6: Go the Extra Mile on Your Resume

Make sure you optimize your resume and tailor it per each job. Try to include specific keywords that can be picked up by the software that filters it if it is not a person to read it.

How Will You Stand Out?

If possible, keep it results-oriented and to the point. If you don’t have work experience just include an internship or volunteer opportunity you might have participated in. 

Also, remember to line up your references, and let them know prior to giving out their name and number; that way they will be ready to portray you in the best way possible.

You Got This!

Now that you know the main key points on what to do after graduation, you are probably wondering HOW to put some of these tips in action. 

Don’t worry, because next week we will dig deeper and I will share a few steps by step tips on how to shift your mindset and set yourself up for success in order to avoid post grad depression

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